This is the date on a penny.
But was the following a date with Penny?
I had a slightly confusing interaction this weekend with a friend, and I'm left unsure if it was a date or not. I was having a bad Friday, and sent a message to my regular posse about grabbing some post-work Happy Hour drinks. At the same time, I got a text from a friend we shall call... Andrew.
Andrew is a friend I met through my roommate. He's a really nice guy - tall, smart, and slightly awkward - just my style! When I had first moved in with my roommate and was getting to know Andrew, I was definitely a little interested. This was in part driven by the fact that he would ask my roommate about me, and it's always flattering to know that someone is thinking about you. However, nothing has ever happened between us - he's on the quiet side, and you already know my stance on asking a guy out! We are friends, and hang out in group settings only.
So, as I said, on Friday I got a text from Andrew asking if "you guys" had any plans, and that there was a movie that he wanted to see. I wasn't really sure what he meant by "you guys" but responded that I was free, and he sent me a link to the review (Catfish) and we made plans to meet up that night to see it. He said he would buy two tickets, so they didn't sell out - date? Or did he intend for me to invite my roommate along? Not a date?
In the meantime, most of my usual group couldn't make Happy Hour for various reasons, but I did get together with one friend. It was close to the movie theatre, so I invited Andrew to meet us there as well. (Nothing like sabotaging a potential date by having a gay third wheel along - well done Penny! This may be why I'm single...?) We had a drink, and Andrew then invited our third wheel along to the movie - not a date?
Third Wheel had other plans, and the movie was sold out, so it's good he didn't tag along. Andrew and I found seats uncomfortably close to the screen, and had a nice chat before the previews. There was a little bit of flirty teasing and arm-touching - date? The film-maker was actually in the theatre, so he came out before the movie and introduced it - I love New York! The movie was interesting and thought-provoking - I definitely recommend it. After the show, the film-maker came back out and did some Q&A. Living in NYC is frustrating and hard and incredibly annoying at times, but it also has moments like this where I feel so lucky to live here.
Andrew and I walked to the subway, hugged, and headed our separate directions home. Not a date?
Definitely a date not a date! ahhh, so confusing! I think it may be a date if this sort of thing happens again, ya know? Either way, sounds like such a fun night!!
ReplyDeleteI always do this. I think of something else I want to say after I already posted a comment, but this is one of those cases where even though it's kind of agonizing wondering if it was a date or not, I think in a way what happened was better. There wasn't all this pressure that surrounds a date because imagine if it'd been labeled a "date" from the get go? It may not have been as much fun or spontaneous. You could see what it was like to hang out with each other on your own without calling it a date right away. Now if a similar situation happens again, I definitely wouldn't hesitate to say, "Gee, we keep getting together like this, I'm having a nice time...it's almost like a DATE." ;) and see what he says...
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